After years of struggling with infertility and after spending a small fortune in treatments, Suzanne Sanchez was finally pregnant. She went in at six weeks and discovered that she was having triplets.
Great news, right? Imagine this:
My mouth fell open. My husband had to steady himself against the wall. There was no jumping for joy at the tiny heartbeats. I continued to stare in disbelief at the monitor. How could I possibly carry three babies to term in my 120-pound body? And what would happen if I couldn’t?
Sometimes one or two of the fetuses can fade away after a few weeks,� the doctor said. �But in your case, all three heartbeats are very strong. I think we need to talk about a reduction.�
A reduction?
You need to consider reducing to one or two fetuses. In triplet pregnancies the babies often are born very premature with a lot of complications. You may be saving the lives of the other two by eliminating one.
When I read this, I immediately thought, “Oh, my God. Of course she wouldn’t abort one or two of her long-awaited children.” I got angry at the very idea. Then I read further, and realized that the choice wasn’t as black-and-white as I’d assumed, and both options carried risks.
Mrs. Sanchez did not reduce the number of babies she carried, and the road ahead was a terrifying roller coaster ride.
By 19 weeks, she was on bed rest. By 22 weeks, she was hospitalized in fervent hopes of snatching a few more weeks’ time before delivery. At exactly 26 weeks, she gave birth to three tiny, fragile boys. Her gamble, it seemed, had not paid off well. The boys were alive, but would they remain so?
After struggling with guilt and feelings of maternal failure, Mrs. Sanchez was able to begin bonding with her diminutive sons. She provided breastmilk for them, touched and spoke to them, and although there were many setbacks along the way, her boys - Nicolas, Benjamin, and Sebastian - were discharged three months later, weighing around 4.5 pounds each. They are now four years old and enjoying preschool.
With a million-dollar hospital bill (which thankfully was covered by insurance!) and some horrific memories, Mrs. Sanchez knows exactly how lucky she and her family are. Would things have been different for the child(ren) if the parents had opted for reduction? Perhaps. That’s one of those things that nobody can ever predict, no matter how much greener the grass might appear on the other side of the fence at times.
What would I have done in her shoes? I honestly don’t know. I don’t know that anyone can know what they would do in that sort of situation without actually being in it. Congratulations on your three healthy boys, Mrs. Sanchez.
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