A sad note to the holiday season. Unfortunately, the holiday season sees an increase in reported child abuse cases. “Between the financial pressure to overspend, fatigue from being overscheduled, excessive drinking, unrealistic expectations and potential isolation from family members this time of year, factors can combine to really take their toll on those who have problems controlling their temper.” The article gives some helpful tips including:

Don’t over schedule. If childcare demands already leave you feeling stressed, don’t compound that by trying to attend every party, shopping for the perfect presents, cooking, baking and decorating up a storm.

Watch your budget. Skip that expensive toy in favor of something else on your child’s list that is within your means. Better yet, give the gift of time - a simple afternoon at the park or Saturday of sledding together will build memories that long outlast this year’s hot toy.

Accept help. Don’t be afraid to ask for a break. Lean on friends, family or neighbors. You don’t have to do it all.

Recognize when you’ve reached your boiling point. Make sure your children have a safe haven, whether that is their own crib, a bedroom or even a quick visit at the neighbor’s house while you gather yourself and give yourself a “time-out.”

Make this holiday season and safe and happy one!

Older moms unite! Even though, biologically, women are in their peak reproductive years from the ages of 20-24, many women are choosing to delay having children until they are older. This is due to many reasons - waiting to develop a career first, and continued advancements in fertility treatment to name a few. My interest piqued, I looked for trends in settling down and getting married and this article confirmed what I thought - women are as well waiting longer to get married, the average for a first marriage is steadily increasing. (not intending to tangent too much, but the article also says that a marriage has a better chance going the distance when the couple are in their late 20’s or older)

There are some disadvantages to waiting. Statistically, it takes longer to conceive. And as well the potential for many pregnancy complications increases over 35. As a woman of “advanced maternal age” for my last pregnancy, I can confirm that once you do hit the magical age of 35, the care your OBGYN will provide does change and you will probably have more tests during the pregnancy.

On the flip side, late pregnancy has its own advantages too. An older woman has waited for so long for motherhood. She considers it as blessing rather than a burden. She has probably achieved her career goals and is ready to devote time for the baby. She is more at peace with herself.