Let’s talk about sex for a moment. I can list several “facts” about men and sex, but are any of them actually accurate about my husband or yours? Jay Dixit of Psychology Today examines some of the more common notions:

1. How often do men really think about sex?

Here’s a hint: It’s not every seven seconds. In fact, in a self-reported survey, less than half of men said they thought about sex even once a day! (I do call shenanigans on the 4% who said they didn’t think about sex even once per month, though. Uh-huh.)

2. Men want sex more than we do - a lot more (right?).

Well, yes, but it’s not really fair to hold that against them. New research shows that the instant a woman enters a secure relationship, her sex drive begins to plummet. Four years in, a German study found, fewer than half of women wanted regular sex. And after 20 years, only 20 percent did. In contrast, a man’s libido is apparently unaffected by whether (and for how long) he’s in a stable relationship. I’d be curious to see whether that libido suffers with the addition of children to the mix!

The third myth has to do with average size, and the fourth is HIV-related - I’ll let my curious readers explore those on their own, as they’re perhaps not quite as on-topic as the others.

The fifth and final “truth about men” deals with the length of the average encounter. Most couples do the deed in three to ten minutes - a far cry from the average of 40 minutes portrayed by the entertainment industry. Perhaps “minute man” isn’t as much of an insult as I thought, at least not when stacked up against reality. (I wouldn’t advise using it in conversation with any male you care about, though.)

Posted by Sunshining.